To feel like you are living the person you want to be in each role of your life it's important to know who that person is. Then, you live, breathe, move, talk, and act from that image. Which is why we do this exercise called your "Personal Avatar". It's the image of who you see yourself to be.
If you are constantly only giving to the needs and wants of others, what you have to offer the world can very quickly be misconstrued and forgotten because all of your time, effort, and energy is taken up, leaving no time to fulfill your greatest purposes. If you represent yourself inaccurately in order to take care of others' WANTS, sooner or later that very person with whom you have created the desired relationship will discover that you misrepresented yourself, and one or both of you end up feeling bad.